doomed by the narrative? no, the narrative is doomed by me
heyo. saiph, 21, they/lun/plu/plush, filipino, a lovely lesbian. honestly just a mess of a main. about, credits. tags. current obssession: deltarune ^.^
organizing a catholic / fighting game themed boy band whose members are named guilty gear, confessional gear, penitent gear, prostrate gear, and the habit
PROSTRATE PROSTRATE WITH AN RPROSTRATION AS IN LYING ON THE GROUND IN REMORSEFUL SUBMISSION
Cephalopods can be exchanged for goods and services.
there are many benefits to being a marine biologist
Is it, I will give you cephalopods for goods and services or is it I am an octopus and if you think the five finger discount is good, you should see my 8 armed discount.
“So… Are you going to help me to go back home?” The human asked without being able to hide their hope in their tone and face, this is it, the moment has finally arrived and they are going ti go back home with their family. Finally.
However, before any member of the intergalactic counsil could answer, the room’s screen was forcefully turned on, showing an unexpected familiar face for the human.
“Oh, you are not dead! That’s great!” The human in the screen shouted relaxing their posture. “There’s no need for a war then”
“queer theory” is literally entirely about how things are never binary, how they often exist in ways we don’t expect, how there are things we don’t yet understand and things we never will, and how all of that is important and good, actually!
in environmental science, we talk about “queer theory” as a lens that helps us break down arbitrary boundaries between things. what is natural? can human-made things be natural? is a log cabin natural? what about a beaver dam? why? should those things really be a binary?
in educational research, it’s used to look at study results in new ways: you didn’t get the results you thought you would, but what did you get? what does that say? does it need to be a “yes/no” answer, or is there more to it than that?
categories of art work the same way; “art” can mean “fine art”, it can mean “visual arts”, it can refer to any kind of art (music, dance, theater, writing, etc.). it can even refer to anything done skillfully; “the art of…”. The term is fluid, the categories are flexible, and what fits where is not a binary.
“queer theory” is about broadening your perspective, welcoming complicated truths, and questioning binaries. it’s about accepting non-understanding.
we have always, fundamentally, been about this. the room to identify, express yourself, and exist in ways that others do not understand, to defy binaries and contain contradictions, to deny adherence to the “rules” of any label, is intrinsic to queerness.
This whole obsession with wheelchair users struggling on foot down the aisle at their wedding or across the stage for graduation is 100% powered by ableism.
“The heartwarming story of how one woman worked for 8 months straight so she could escape the horror that is being in wheelchair for a few short minutes to struggle slowly and painfully down the aisle on her special day.”
“the horror that is being in a wheelchair” bitch it’s hella better than struggling slowly & painfully down the aisle ffs
“Despite being permanently paralyzed, her one goal since her accident has been to walk across the stage for graduation. The whole crowd gave her a standing ovation and broke into tears when she dragged her paralyzed legs across the stage with the help of leg braces and a walker to collect her diploma, after which she immediately sat back down in her wheelchair, which she will use to move around for the rest of her life.”
How the hell is this an inspirational story? This person needs better goals. And a therapist.
They’re toxic in an even greater way because as a disabled person, I didn’t realise till I was reading this how much I had internalised that. I genuinely have had feelings of fear and shame about using a chair or a walker if I get married. And why? Because I’m constantly seeing “heartwarming” stories about disabled people who shed their mobility aids for that moment. Why the hell am I afraid of using them to get married? Anyone who marries me or attends the wedding will know I need them and love me regardless.
Bless this post for making me realise I’d internalised that shit.
These types of stories teach people, both abled and disabled, that using mobility aids, especially wheelchairs, is inferior.
here are some beautiful brides in chairs with dresses they ROCK. I know a lot of disabled ppl with internalized ableism think they “won’t look good” if they use their chair, but here’s some literally gorgeous gals for ur consideration
(that last ones cute as fuck and i teared up at it)
Who needs a bouquet when you can be a bouquet?
I made my addition to this post in June 2019. Its now January 2020 and I no longer feel guilty about the idea of going down the aisle one day with mobility aids.
God bless the disabled community, y'all saved me from some internalised bullshit
This post floated by a few months ago, and I remember something to effect of there’s a difference between recovery and refusal. That is, like, I have a friend that suffered an incomplete spinal cord injury. He can walk again now, and I don’t think I’ve seen him use his chair in a few years. When he walked at his graduation, it was to show off his recovery. That he wasn’t quite ready to go through a full day upright, but he could walk across a stage, unassisted, and soon he would be able to do that every day. There’s also a difference in someone like me choosing to not use a mobility aid. My mobility is intensely fluid, especially seasonally. So, I would plan a summer wedding. And while I love my cane it can also be the biggest pain in my ass, so I’d want to just go unassisted. But that’s normal for me, at least right now. I can walk without an aid during about half of the year. It’s reasonable to assume I can make it through one day without it. All of that is different than someone that is fully and permanently paralyzed, that will never walk again, dragging themselves along because they feel that’s somehow better. Overall though, my biggest takeaway is fuck the media. Because disabled people should be able to make whatever decision they want without the media turning it into this grand inspirational story.
Disabled people should be able to make whatever decision they want without the media turning it into this grand inspirational story.
THIS.
Couldn’t pass up the opportunity to add my disabled joy to this post. Look at this love!
Taking the opportunity to add these photos of Jessica Kellgren-Fozard and her wife Claudia, from this twitter post. Jessica also has a youtube channel that’s primarily about disability and chronic illness and LGBT stuff (it’s amazing!)
I would also like to personally share, Annika Victoria who ALSO has a youtube channel. This photo was taken from her instagram - she made her wedding dress dress herself, BY HAND. Her youtube channel is mostly DIY fashion and sewing tutorials. I love her so much, she’s so unapologetically herself and informative
I also wanna add these pictures of Ade Adepitan fucking rocking this badass suit at his wedding! Give my fellow disabled mascs some love too
look how much fun they’re both having! yes!
and also this couple, who are both wheelchair users
this is from their beautifully coordinated wedding!
This parts so important to me; I’m disabled tho not in a chair—sometimes I feel like there’s no disabled masc people at all, at least on tumblr.
My partner and I are both masc non-binary physically disabled people!! This is really nice to see <3
i hate when people take a character and transfem her and then suddenly she’s super femme and girly and a makeup guru like lets be real she would fucking NEVER.
like if she’s some weird fucking guy, and then you transed her gender, now she’s a weird fucking girl. thems the rules
